Tuesday, June 26, 2012

what happens when you're not straight with your three year old

Looking at some pictures of a friend's baby, I explain to Jake that she came out of her Mummy's tummy.

Jake: Did I come out of your tummy?
Me: Yes you did.
Jake: But how did I get in there?
Me: Ermmmm, well...
Jake: Don't you know?
Me: Yes, I do know, I just don't know how to explain it.
Jake: Just tell me.
Me: Ok, well, Mummy and Daddy planted a special seed and you grew inside me and then you came out of my tummy.
Jake: Oh, ok.

Two weeks later...

Jake: Mummy, did you buy me?
Me: Did I buy you?  No honey, I didn't buy you.
Jake: Where did I come from then?
Me: Well, Daddy and I made you and you came out of Mummy's tummy, remember I told you about that?
Jake: You MADE me? 
Me: Yes, sort of, do you remember what I told you?
Jake: You made me when you and Daddy planted a tree?
Me: Ermmm, not a tree, a special seed...
Jake: Did you do it wrong Mummy?
Me: Ermmmm, no...I don't think so...what do you mean?
Jake: How did I come out of you?
Me: Ermmm, well...I have a sort of tunnel.
Jake: You have a tunnel?  <pause> Wow.
I'm usually so honest with him about everything, but I just can't bring myself to explain about sex - not yet.

P.S. On an irrelevant note: this is my 1200th post on this blog!
P.P.S. To those of you who read my last post and got in touch to ask me if I'm okay...thank you, and yes, I am okay.  You're all lovely.  Thank you for caring.


Annette said...

You did well. I always answered the question but didn't offer "extra" info. I found that as they were able to understand, they asked more. It worked well and by the time they were teenagers we could discuss anything without embarrassmentwhich really worked out well!

Celia said...

You did very well. Always good to clarify what they want to know or why they want to know it to avoid confusion. A friends of mine was asked by the 6 year old (while she- the friend was driving her car)..
6 yr old- Mum what's sex?
Friend- Why do you ask?
6yr old-Well when someone says they're going to be a couple of secs- what do they mean?

Answered another way and it could have been very confusing!

Melissa Connolly said...

Good job with your explanations! I always marvel at little kids' questions and thought processes. My nephew is so analytical sometimes. It's always entertaining, even if it's hard for us come up with the answers. I think you've done well--so far. :-)

Beth said...

I'm wondering whether these questions might be sprung upon us pretty soon, but it doesn't seem to have occurred to him yet!

I think you did very well ;) x

Elli said...

Sorry - don't keep up with your blog NEARLY as much as I should do, but I just read this post and burst out laughing. And then read the previous post. I hope you're really, properly OK. Let me know if you'd like to meet up sometime - maybe St James' Park again? xx