Being with Jake today made me nervous. I’m not used to this wilful Jake. I had no strategies and felt incompetent. So I decided to go with the flow. It resulted in finding a new “game” for him while I was tidying – a spray bottle with water. And after a two hour play in the playground, a mini-tantrum after we got home (when I took his shoes off) and then again at naptime, when I decided not to bring him back to his bed, my flow-going self found him like this. Staying calm helps. And sometimes, doing nothing pays off.